.. but night terrors and bad dreams are very common for me. I don't really like staying at other peoples houses,
Hi Sparky,
I'm not trying to downplay what you are experiencing, and I'm not a clinical psychologist. But I have lived with night terrors and bad dreams in the past. I think, IMO, before applying a demonic name such as an Incubus to what is going on; partly because I think that is an extreme, that other things are looked as well.
You mentioned that this happens while you are dreaming. It is not uncommon to have a sexually oriented dream. In dream analysis, it is not a rarity for the subconscious to speak to you about things that consciously you might not even be seeing with tension, career, anxiety, family, marriage, etc.
Having these type of dreams may very well be your body reflecting it's need and desire for sex or closeness. However it could also have a deeper meaning as well.
Probably one of the most important things to think about is by remembering your sex dream and how you felt while it happened and how you feel when you wake up. A dream diary is very handy here. You keep a notebook, journal, etc. and a writing utensil by your bed. Write your dreams down when you first wake up so you do not forget anything. This is very useful in helping to pinpoint a horrific memory of real life that consciously you have not fully dealt with - thus it tries to emerge to the surface through dreams (scary or otherwise). If it is in repetition; meaning night after night, and it is upsetting each time, again write it down.
If it is not something you can pinpoint on your own, perhaps talking to a trained professional could very well help. And please understand, I am not calling you crazy or insinuating that you are. But I do not want to see you being upset more so because someone told you a demon is coming to see you.
Try keeping a journal and see if it helps to pinpoint the root of these dreams.
Good luck and soft hugs